A couple weeks ago I was talking with a guy I know that adopted a child last year after he and his wife tried for a while to conceive naturally and it didn't happen for them. He gave me a great piece of advice, which was to look at the whole thing as a PROCESS. This really resonated with me, because I tend to get hung up on the day by day of it all and the pressure of trying as hard as I can to make it happen each cycle or each time we try. For some reason, hearing that it's all part of a bigger process to start a family helped me to think of each day as being a useful part of a whole. I try not to look at the days, weeks, and months in each cycle ticking by as "wasted" if it isn't happening. I know that we are hopefully closer to the goal the further into this we go.
The other thing that keeps me sane is knowing that when it does happen, I think it will feel so right at that time. To compare, I was extremely antsy to get married to my husband when we were dating. We didn't get engaged until 3-4 years after we started dating, and then were engaged for a year before the actual wedding. I remember thinking it was an eternity back then, but when the wedding actually happened, it felt like it was at the perfect time and I wondered what I had been so worried about all those years, because life just seemed to fall into place and I was where I was supposed to be right then. I'm hoping when I get pregnant and have a baby, it will be like that.
So those are the two big mental things I think of to keep me sane.
Other things I can do to stay sane in the meantime:
Hang with my friends!
Snuggle my dog. Like I need an excuse...
Watch my husband snuggle my dog. That always makes me smile :)
Take in all the knowledge I can from my pregnant and mommy friends.
Eat things I won't be able to later if I'm preggo.
Drink things I won't be able to later if I'm preggo...
Run? Actually yes. I ran the other night for the first time in weeks!
I didn't go that far, and it felt like I was made of lead, but hey, I'll take it.
And of course... blog!
Any other ideas of things I should do to stay sane??